Man vs Bear - By Vanessa Phillips

Lots of talk surrounding the man or bear topic. I know a lot of people, especially women, won’t agree with me on this one. I’m ok with that. I’m always open to hear all sides. Also, this is my space and my blog and we are all adults so we don’t have to be twinsies.

In theory, I understand why women are saying “bear.” However, I don’t find it warranted. Maybe in the 70’s, 80’s, 90’s, early 2000’s I would say bear. Maybe.  I cannot conjure up in my head, wanting to be followed or chased by a wild animal with no logical thinking except that I am food that has to be killed before I’m eaten. Also, physically, if it came down to it, I’d much rather fight a man than a bear. Have you seen the size of those things?

But let’s get into the real issue the ladies have with men. In my opinion, in my experience, yes I have been attacked by men, I have been looked at in gross ways, I have had nasty things said to me, all of those things are real. Still, with all of those past experiences, all those feelings, I’m saying bear. Biologically, men are looking to conquer, to mate, they are visual sexual people. Ladies let’s not pretend we don’t like it and let’s not pretend we don’t possess those same qualities. Moreover, our current society has produced and is producing some of the weakest men I have ever seen in my life. 90% of men I come across in every day life, I wouldn’t need to fight him in the forest, I could call him a name and he would get offended and storm off. We are encouraging men to be sensitive and weak cowards instead of strong family protectors and providers. A weak, sensitive, easily offended, crying man is a horribly unattractive thought. We have allowed women to run a power trip on themselves for so long that we glorify strong loud boisterous MEAN women and we create these weak cowardly men and then we mock them. This is detrimental to our society, relationships and our children. I can describe myself as a strong, successful, independent woman. I am mentally and physically strong, I am successful and make money, I have run a household, I have raised children as a single mom. It was a sad time in my life doing all of those things alone. I found a real man, to run our home, provide, protect us and give us love and safety. A dominate and masculine man that loves us.

I could go on for much longer and I’m happy to engage with anyone on this topic. There are bad men out there. We know that. There are bad women out there. I can name tons. We are teaching men to be afraid. When I’m wandering out in the woods, and a massive wild bear is following me, I sure hope there is a man around to save my life…